Dating Apps Are Dead: How to Get Laid Without Using Tinder
The longer the Great Millennial Swipe App Experiment drags on, the worse it gets: overweight women, overage women, women with multiple children, garish tattoos, Gatorade hair colors, holding out with expectations that Superman and Jesus couldn’t satisfy.
If you are a man still participating on traditional (vanilla) dating apps, like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge… I have zero sympathy.
You know better, and you deserve what you’re getting.
Everybody on dating apps is constantly complaining about dating apps:
Swiping for hours, yet getting few, or zero matches
Only matching with overweight, or unappealing women (See my post, “Why You Only Match With Fat Girls on Tinder”)
Women who use apps for attention, yet have no desire to meet in person
At this point, we already know that men make up 70% of dating app users.
On top of that, the 30% of “female” users are mostly bots, scammers, and women promoting their OnlyFans.
At the same time, healthy men, under age 80 live with a burning desire for sexual intimacy, which demands to be satisfied, one way or another.
What can you do?
To men who are still looking for strategies to interact with women, without wasting frustrating hours swiping on obese women who have rebranded themselves as “thicc”, here are handful of alternate strategies to deploy:
Approach Everyone
So called “cold approach” is a game of high risk, high (potential) reward.
Once you get enough practice to be good at it, you will be able to meet and flirt with sexy women who would never include you in the 4% of men that get right swiped on dating apps.
However, on the steep learning curve to “good”, you will get embarrassingly rejected most of the time, with the added pitfall of being considered a “harasser” if the woman thinks you’re ugly.
Yes, I’ve previously slandered cold approach as a “waste of time”.
However, the average Millennial wastes 10 hours a week, swiping garbage hook up apps anyway. At least approaching women would get you off the couch, into the daylight.
I recently invested in an Infield Boot Camp with seduction legend, Owen Cook. See my post, “Why I Dropped $3,000 On A Boot Camp With Owen Cook”.
The weekend training included classroom sessions packed with information about body language, creating rapport and sexual chemistry, taught by Cook, and his team.
In the evenings, we hit the bar and clubs for live training: approaching and seducing women, while receiving prompts and coaching feedback in real time. For more on my experiences that weekend, check out “Top 5 Lessons I Learned From A RSD Infield Boot Camp With Owen Cook”
Despite being average looking, and average height, I met and vibed with dozens of attractive women.
I felt interesting, desired, and cool.
When sets went well, I could tell that women were happy to be interacting with an attractive, social guy.
When women go through all the trouble of getting dressed up, spending hours on their makeup and hair, wearing uncomfortable shoes, they do ALL that… for the chance of going out and having an adventure.
Most women watch sappy love stories, where the heroine unexpectedly meets a charming guy.
In these movies, the charming man sweeps the female lead of her feet.
I felt amazing being able to be that guy.
In one weekend, I created connections with more young, sexy women, than I had in the previous year, despite not being a handsome male model, or anywhere close to a “Chad”.
The odds are what they are, but if you make approaching about being social, enjoying the moment, and bringing value to other people- it’s worth the effort, and better than letting computer nerds and complicated algorithms decide the fate of your sex life.
Establish Dominance
I wrote about this at length in my post, “Chasing Women Doesn’t Work… And What Does”.
In short, women are naturally attracted to men in leadership roles.
Seeing a man lead other men gives women the tingles, often overcoming their desire for physical traits such as good looks or height.
I’m sure you’ve seen this phenomenon before.
Examples include:
- the manager at a job who has banged all the female staff,
-the bartender at the popular watering hole who has women throwing themselves at him,
-a guy in a band getting panties thrown at him by fans.
If you known a man like this, you’ve seen firsthand that they’re often regular looking guys.
However, they have charisma, social status, and the swagger that comes with being the Top Dog in a pack.
Men often get stuck in their heads, thinking women are like us, and feel sexual attraction for the same reason that men do.
In reality, looks are important, but women evaluate men, and feel sexual chemistry, for more reasons than just looks, like guys do.
Getting women is about more than having rippling abs…and this is a good thing.
You have the ability to be way more attractive than you think.
For more on how you can make women’s innate desire for the dominant male work for you, check out the post linked above.
Pay For Play
Haters can protest all they want.
I don’t care.
The average American woman is overweight, whacked out of her skull on hormonal birth control, bossy, opinionated, and intolerably bitchy.
While it’s possible to meet attractive women through social groups, and approaching, as I mentioned, it still takes finesse, skill, and luck, to guide them from an introduction to sex.
A lot of men have figured out that dating apps are a pyramid scheme, so the competition in social circle and approach game is stronger than ever.
Additionally, even if you aren’t on dating apps, women still have Tinder, Hinge, Instagram, (any method possible of getting attention) installed on their phone.
As we learned during the Adam Levine DM scandal, where an internationally famous pop star was exchanging thirsty Instagram messages with a slightly petty college coed… any woman on Earth can DM celebrities and star athletes, as easily as calling her grandmother.
It’s a competitive, ruthlessly hypergamous landscape, and your competition is every man on the planet… not just the guys at your neighborhood bar.
On this blog, I’ve urged men to pursue self-improvement, and I still do:
-Clearly define your dreams
-Pursue them passionately
For more inspiration, read my post, “Bachelors Can Have Totally Different Lives Than Married Men”.
My visions for all Solitary Beasts is to be out there to be enjoying their lives to the fullest, as I strive to, every day.
At the same time, I believe it’s possible to be hopeful, and realistic, at the same time. For more on my philosophy, see my post, “Any Woman You Want?”.
There is a limited number of physically attractive women in the United States.
you are competing against men who are taller, richer, more handsome, and more clouted, Etc., than you- no matter what you do.
There’s nothing wrong with making life easier for yourself- by leveraging your financial success to spend time with highly attractive women.
Men who don’t understand this are either too young or idealistic to accept reality,…or too broke to afford it.
If you have the money, it’s not a big deal.
There is no easy or perfect solution to meeting or dealing with women, but this one is a life hack.
Successful entrepreneurs, who often have more money than time, or mental energy, to cold approach 100 women a week, often make the choice to deploy their wallets to get what they want.
As a coach at SimpleSugarDating.com, I work with men who earn multiple six figures a year.
These men can toss $300-600, or more, on spending the evening with a sexy woman.
If you’re assistant manager at Planet Fitness, this number sounds outlandish.
Just admit that P4P is out of your budget.
Don’t bother to cry in the comment section about your shortcomings.
I can cold approach and meet women socially whenever I choose, and I do.
However, Pay For Pay is a nearly foolproof way to guarantee you end up in bed with the sexy, young, feminine woman of my choosing, who is down to do whatever my throbbing dick desires,… without playing psychological games.
As such, your whining will not stop me, or anyone else.
Conclusion
Dating apps are a pyramid scheme, and a con game.
It pains me to see handsome, hard working, good hearted men torture themselves,… but you guys refuse to listen to reason.
Wasting your time swiping, hoping to find love, makes as much sense as scratching lottery tickets as a retirement savings strategy.
A concept called Survivorship Bias is making you believe, because you heard a story of your co-workers brother’s friend, who met a cute girl Tinder, and got married, that you should be wasting your one beautiful experience on Planet Earth, swiping fat chicks on dating apps.
You are holding on to hope, because of the human tendency to focus on a tiny amount of success stories, while ignoring the steaming piles of failure that crowd the landscape.
I personally know two average looking guys who met cute long term girlfriends on Tinder (pre-2016, when it was a viable way to meet women).
However, I also know that untold hundreds of thousands of other people suffer in frustration, ghosting, bad dates, and broken hearts.
It’s even worse than you think.
Most people, especially men, don’t want to admit that they struggle with relationships.
Everyone will exaggerate or outright lie, to avoid the embarrassment of admitting they aren’t desirable on the dating market.
Feel free to use trash dating apps if you choose.
I’m judging your intelligence, your financial position, and your sanity.
-Chance