Top 5 Paradigm Shifts From RSD Infield Boot Camp With Owen Cook
In my post, “Why I Dropped $3,000 On a Boot Camp With Owen Cook”, I explained why I invested thousands of dollars on a weekend of training with one of the most legendary figures in seduction and self-help.
On the flight home to my small mountain city, I scribbled out notes on the main lessons I learned from the experience.
In this post, I’m sharing these insights with you.
If you’re thinking about investing in an Real Social Dynamics (RSD) program, or curious about the results that are possible from live infield coaching, this article is for you.
Investing in myself is worth it
At the time, the $3,000 infield training was the largest single self-improvement purchase I’d ever made.
While $3,000 isn’t a life changing amount of money for me, it felt like a big investment in the moment.
I signed up for the training after a sales call that lasted over an hour.
By the end, I was convinced.
I pulled out my Visa, and read the digits out to the RSD rep on the other end of the phone.
He thanked me, fired over an email receipt of my purchase, then… nothing.
I had signed up for the training 5 months in advance.
It felt strange to drop such a big lump sum, yet receive nothing tangible in return.
(My sales rep did grant me access to two of Owen’s classic programs, to go over in the meantime.)
I did enjoy the rush of excitement that I had taken action, and “Done Something”.
I busied myself with making travel arrangements, scheduling the time off in my business, and dreaming about what would happen when I arrived to the training.Months later, when I finally arrived to the boot camp, I knew within minutes that I had made the right decision.
I learned more in that short weekend, than I had from stacks of books, and hours of Youtube videos on dating and seduction.
While books are an excellent way to learn new concepts, (Check out my post “3 Books Any Man Can Use to Improve His Sex Life”) nothing is more powerful than a real life experience, with skilled, veteran coaches, who can critique and tweak your game in real time.
My RSD boot camp experience was worth 3X what I invested.
I loved every minute, and can’t wait to do another one.
I have no idea what “Good” is
This is a concept that Owen Cook teaches in his Youtube videos, and in his course, Higher Purpose Program.
As someone who is self-taught in seduction, from books and free videos, I had NO IDEA what was possible.
The mind-blowing paradigm shifts I experienced on boot camp was worth the price of admission.
I saw my compatriots pull off feats that I never thought were possible.
For example, one of the guys from the group approached a set where two scantily clad women were climbing into a sleek BMW coupe.
As he approached with an opener, I saw her roll her eyes and start to slam the door, making it clear she was completely uninterested.
I laughed, and kept walking, looking for the next set of available women to approach.
After a few minutes, I turned to look for my wingman.
The sexy women in the car were giggling and smiling with him.
I doubled back to get a closer look at the miracle he had pulled off.
My friend was an average height, average looking, young guy.
He had decent facial features, but wasn’t male model handsome, or built like a Greek statue.
I couldn’t believe my eyes when I saw the woman who was previously slamming the door on his fingers, a voluptuous, very attractive Black girl, was begging him to take her phone number.
“Give me your phone!”, she playfully demanded.
He played it cool, refusing, teasing her.
The more he resisted, the more insistent she became.
It was amazing to behold.
I’d seen hours of black pill videos claiming that average looking men had ZERO hope to ever meet sexy girls, in the era of Instagram, Tinder, and rampant hypergamy.
Yet, with my own eyes, I was watching a beautiful woman BEG an average looking guy for his phone, so she could give him her number.
If I hadn’t seen it myself, I would never have believed the story.
Hot girls are nice
During boot camp, I talked to more women in two days, than I had in the previous two years.
I quickly noticed a pattern.
The more beautiful the woman, the friendlier and easier to meet she was. (Something I’d noted before. The weekend was a reminder.)
Of course, not all of the sexy women I approached wanted to talk to me.
However, the surprising thing is… MOST of them did.
Only a few women were overtly rude to me… ones that were less attractive than I would ideally want to meet anyway.
Many of the women I met were open and interested when I walked up to them.
I usually started with a ridiculous observation, saying something outlandish about her outfit, her shoes, or some aspect of the venue.
If my target was wearing strappy high heels I would joke, “Hey, I really like your shoes… you should let me borrow them”.
She would throw her head back, in an incredulous laugh, and roll her eyes playfully.
I kept chatting, peppering them with silly questions, and impressions.
Most of the time, they would take the bait, and warm up quickly.
From there, it was easy to let the conversation flow, laugh together, and enjoy the moment.
I felt accepted, desired, interesting, and funny.
I realized that all the negative, doom and gloom, black pill videos, about women only dating “Chads”, is just a story people tell themselves, so they don’t have to try.
I’m an average height, average looking guy (at best).
Yet I had a blast meeting, dancing, and chatting with all kinds of beautiful women that weekend.
Women go out to be seduced
If you’re a guy, “getting ready” for a night out entails a shower, a spritz of cologne on your chest, and putting on a clean shirt.
The entire production can take less than 15 minutes, if you’re in a rush.
For women, “getting ready” be a full day production: hair, makeup, choosing an outfit, taking that off, and choosing another outfit, then doing that 4 or 5 times,… and she hasn’t even chosen her shoes!
Women shove their breasts up to their chin, spend hours painting their faces and curling their hair, then tilt around in uncomfortable heels, for one reason: to meet men.
Not just any man, charming, seductive guys that can create a fun evening worth the investment of all that time and energy.
Several times, when I approached women that were just chatting to their girlfriends that they came with, or scrolling their IG feed, it seemed like they were relieved that a fun, non-creepy guy approached them to start a conversation.
When sets were going well, I could tell women were happy to be talking to me, teasing each other, laughing, and having a good time.
One set that went perfectly is when an RSD coach pointed out a slim, tan woman, wearing a slinky dress that revealed her sexy, long legs.
“Go talk to that girl”, he commanded me.
I snapped to attention, and crossed the floor of the rooftop bar to make my approach.
The woman was engrossed in her phone.
“…You must not like to dance”, I announced, nodding at the small dance floor, where a few people were grooving to the Latin beats of a DJ set.
Seated on a couch, she looked up at me.
Her face was visibly annoyed, but her elegant features were stunningly beautiful.
“No. I don’t…”, she answered, tersely, then looked away.
I persisted, “Wait…you have an accent…”
Her soft voice had the musical intonation of a native Spanish speaker.
“…a Latina that doesn’t dance??”, I exaggerated a shocked expression.
Her “bitch shield” softened, and she smiled.
I was in.
Without waiting for an invitation, I plopped down on the couch beside her.
“…Where are you from?” I asked, then I changed my mind. “Wait, don’t tell me…”
I rested my hand on her forearm and raised my eyebrow,“I want to guess”.
The sexy Latina seemed intrigued.
We played a game where I asked her questions, getting her to talk more, so I could hear more of her distinct accent.
Women love mystery, intrigue, and games.
She was hooked, and I could tell.
Her lithe frame leaned into me, her eyes gleaming, as I conducted my investigation.
We were close enough to kiss when I finally made my decision. I had heard enough.
“I know where you’re from” I stated confidently.
She was tingling with anticipation, and I could tell.
“You are from Argentina.”
She squealed in delight. “…Omg, that’s amazing!!” she exclaimed.
I was right.
We shared a hearty laugh, eye contact sizzling between us.
Using the skills I learned from boot camp, and my previous experiences in seduction, I had transformed from a unwanted pest, to a charming, seductive potential lover, within minutes.
My group ended up bouncing to another bar within a few minutes, and I went with them, eager to get more instruction from the RSD team.
Although it didn’t develop into anything more, that was one of my favorite moments in pick up.
I had approached a gorgeous, slender Latina, without being a ripped, millionaire, male supermodel… and had her hanging on to my every word, completely enthralled with me.
If I had more time, who knows what could have happened.
I felt bulletproof.
I can have fun without drinking
Another big curveball of the boot camp is that went out to bars and clubs until 5 am every night, approached dozens or hundreds of women, had an amazing time… without drinking a drop of alcohol.
The RSD instructors advise against drinking while running game.
First, it’s expensive, if you’re going out multiple times a week, as they recommend.
More important, game requires quick wit and a high level of social awareness: reading eye contact, subtle shifts in body language, and vocal tonality, ensuring that the people you’re approaching are comfortable, consenting, and enjoying themselves in the set.
Alcohol would obviously make that challenge harder than it already is.
I had already been experimenting with sobriety for over a month prior to the training, and I still am.
However, that weekend was the first time that I went out socializing without drinking.
I was surprised to find that I didn’t miss it at all.
I didn’t feel pressured to buy women drinks, which I don’t anyway.
Although I’ll continue to meet women, via sugar dating or seeing escorts, it felt great to meet women, have chemistry and attraction, just for fun.
The skills I honed in pick up are actually very helpful in interacting with women, however I meet them.
I’ve said many times: “Sugar dating is not a solution to your problems with women”.
You will still need to learn how to build attraction, create comfort, be likeable, masculine, and charming with women. See my post, “3 Things I Learned From Dating Sugar Babies”, for more on attraction and game within the realm of sugar dating.
Conclusion
My RSD infield boot camp was one of the most fun and exciting experiences of my entire year.
I felt thrilled to take the opportunity to break out of the “derpy haze”, as RSD founder, Owen Cook calls the routine of daily life: work, gym, sleep, repeat.
It was an honor to work with the RSD coaches, and Cook himself.
I can’t wait to join another training, and see what other massive paradigm shifts I can learn.
The most important thing I learned didn’t have anything to do with meeting women.
I learned that I have NO CLUE what is possible.
I learned that naysayers and negative people complaining on the internet (myself included) shouldn’t be trusted.
I learned that if I can be this wrong in an area of my life (meeting women)… what else can I be getting completely wrong?
More than ever, I now feel energized to get in situations to learn from experts, to discover ideas and possibilities I’ve never imagined before.
If anyone reading this is curious about attending an RSD infield training, I can’t encourage you enough to schedule it today.
If you’re lucky, it’ll change your life as much as it changed mine.