Today’s Comment Of The Week is from longtime reader and commenter, Valdez Hill.

My recent posts about dating in the sugar baby world has incited several interesting responses from members of this community.

Valdez’s reply on my latest article, “Scammed By Sugar Babies?”, is thoughtful and earnest.

He raises several important points, which I chose to respond to in a full post.

Below is his comment, followed by my thoughts.

New Ideas

I've already stated that I expect most readers to disagree with me on this subject (at least at first), and that's fine.

Almost all new ideas sound “crazy” the first time you hear them.

Back in the early 2000s, I first heard of an organization called NORML, the National Organization for the Reform of Marijuana Laws. The group was working to get weed legalized in the United States.

I laughed out loud the first time I heard about it.

“That’ll NEVER happen”, I stated confidently.

This was 20 years ago, during the first administration of George W. Bush.

Same sex marriage wasn’t legal, transgender people only existed on Jerry Springer, and the closest thing to a “smartphone” was the Palm Treo.

Released in 2004, the Palm Treo had a 1 megapixel camera but no WiFi capability. From Cnet

Less than two decades later, marijuana is now freely available in 18 US states, and Washington D.C., including several formerly “conservative” strongholds, such as Arizona and Montana.

Transgender people are everywhere, and the latest iPhone has enough power to launch a space shuttle, a Youtube channel, or an international human rights protest.

My point of explaining this is to illustrate that cultural norms are constantly, and rapidly shifting.

If you hear a new idea and think, “That’s ridiculous! I’ll NEVER do that!”, wait a year or two, (or even a few months) and ask yourself again.

The Truth About “Getting Any Woman You Want”

As much as I hate to kill a sacred calf of our community, it's pure fantasy to believe that any human man could self-improve enough to get “any woman” he wants.

Improving your social skills, style, grooming, fitness, and finances, etc. will increase the number of women who are attracted to you.
Learning “game” will teach you how to not mess it up with that (still very small) percentage of women who are interested and available.

It’s not a magic bullet.

In fact, the most prolific pickup artists, and most accomplished seducers, admit to getting flatly rejected on 99% of their attempts to meet women.

Cold approach is a valuable skill to build confidence and improve socially, but it is an inefficient way to meet women.
With respect to Pancake, it’s a waste of time to invest this much effort to be with one girl, one time.

Even IF a man is successful at getting a woman’s number, there’s still the high likelihood that she’ll:

never respond,
agree to a date, but flake out,
show up for the free food and attention, then ghost.

Women are simply NOT as interested in men, as men are in women.

When women are sexually interested in men, they are extremely picky, rating 80% of men as “below average” in terms of looks.

Testosterone levels (which drive sexual desire) are 20 TIMES HIGHER in healthy men under age 60, than in women.

Women are not biologically capable of desiring sex as much as men do.

It is statistically and biologically impossible for a man to “get any woman he wants”, by sheer self-improvement.

If you’ve ever known a man that prided himself on sleeping with lots of women, you’ve seen first hand that the MAJORITY of women guys like that sleep with are unattractive, overweight, or unappealing in some obvious way.

Quantity and quality never coincide.

A man that only sleeps with the TINY FRACTION of women he can charm, cajole, and sweet talk into bed, is limiting himself.

Self-Improvement

In his comment, Valdez asks: "

“Why would I seek self-improvement then turn around and just pay for a woman’s company?”

To that, I would counter, “Do you pursue self-improvement ONLY to get women?”

I write books, this blog, create content for a podcast, a Youtube channel, AND am self-employed in several profitable businesses.
I’ve traveled to 40 US states, 13 countries, and lived in Vietnam.
I own a home, an investment property, and two vehicles.
I play guitar, am a fantastic cook, and lift weights 4- 5 times a week.
At 39, I'm lean and athletic.

I’ll admit that I started self-improvement goals solely to get more women- at first.

As I spent more time with my new hobbies, I started enjoying my pursuits for the challenge and growth they offered in and of themselves.

It started off being just about “getting girls”, and ended up being much more fulfilling than that.

I explain how female hypergamy forces men to self-improve, and why that’s good, in the video below.

I wasn’t one of the (few) lucky guys blessed with movie star good looks, but I’m well groomed and fit.

How much more “self-improvement” do I need to do?

An extreme makeover?

Plastic surgery?

Steroids?

I’m happy with the way I look, and proud of my fitness level.

Of course I can always IMPROVE, but I’m already in shape and financially successful.

Any additional effort, besides becoming a multi-millionaire, would offer diminishing returns, at best, in terms of attracting women.

Since we all know that women only date up, I will STILL only ever be able to sleep with women 1-2 points BELOW my SMV.

An average man who invests YEARS into self improvement (as I have) is STILL limited to dating average, and below average looking women- from ThomasCrownPUA.com

Sure, I can meet women through other means.

However, I’m realistic enough to accept that I’ll never be able to date 25 year old models and strippers I’ve always fantasized about being with- and you probably won’t either… unless you think outside the box.

Sugar dating, via sites like SugarDaddyMeet.com is simply the easiest way to meet very attractive younger women who are interested in dating successful, older men.

Click the image, or the link above for a free account. See for yourself.

Prove Me Wrong

I welcome any reader to prove me wrong.

If you’re a man who has self-improved to point that you are REGULARLY dating YOUNG,

MODEL TIER women,

send in photos, or any other supporting evidence to SolitaryBeastBlog@gmail.com.

Show me that I’m wrong about needing money, in one form or another, to attract the most desirable women- and I’ll humbly apologize.

Sex And Money

The final aspect of this issue that seems to irritate people is the amount of money I spend on sugar dating.

Currently, I donate thousands of dollars a month to my sugar girlfriend, in the form of cash, dates, and gifts.

I see the funds as an investment in my emotional and sexual health, and overall happiness.

I’m HAPPIER when I’m receiving the affection and attention of attractive young women.

My emotional well-being is better, I’m less stressed out, and more creative, when I’m not spending hours swiping on apps, sending messages that lead to nowhere, and spending money on dates with women I’m barely attracted to.

Messaging a 4/ 10 that you wouldn’t have even approached IRL

Most of the men who self-righteously criticize me for paying to date models would jump at the opportunity to do it, too- if they could afford it.

Money is only important in terms of its relative value.

A thousand or two dollars a month sounds like a lot to some people, but it’s reasonably affordable (and worth it) to me.

What if I was spending $100 a month to date and sleep with the kind of women most men only fantasize about?

What if it was only $50?

A lot of the detractors would be more open to at least trying it out.

In short:

You’re not upset that I’m paying very attractive young women for their time; you’re resentful that you can’t do it.

Conclusion

Sugar daddy dating is not only the new trend, it’s set to completely revolutionize the way everyone dates.

Successful men have been paying women for their time for all of history.

A sugar baby is NOT the same as an escort, but see the examples below:

Men who are many times more “High Value” than any Red Pill blogger/ internet marketer, like Donald Trump, Eddie Murphy, Hugh Grant, Alex Rodriguez, Tiger Woods, Charlie Sheen, and more, are well known to pay women for their time.

It’s well known that the famous Playboy mansion was a brothel for celebrities.

How much “self improvement” would it take an 80 year old man to charm 4 young blondes- just curious

Killing Santa Claus

Telling Red Pill guys that “self-improvement” isn’t magic fairy dust, is like telling innocent children that Santa doesn’t exist.

It pains me to ruin the dream, but as some point, we all have to grow up and face reality.

Self-improvement helps, and is worth the effort, for your own good- but it’s only going to get you so far.

Attractive women are for coke dealers, bartenders, and men with money, whether you put it in her hand, or not.

That’s the real Red Pill.

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