Stop Taking Women On Dates
When is the last time you went on a date?
As in:
meet a woman at a pre-determined time and place,
bring her flowers and chocolate,
consume food and alcohol,
be on your best behavior- as charming and suave as possible,
….all in an effort to sleep with her.
Do people still do that?
Traditional dates may have worked, in the pre-social media, pre-dating app, pre-COVID days.
Even I was still taking women out for drinks back then. Read my post, “Sex On The Second Date”.
However, in 2023 and beyond, taking women to dinners and drinks is an ancient, and obsolete, strategy, in truth, it always has been.
Of course, if you enjoy dining in expensive restaurants with beautiful women (which I do), there are better ways to guarantee that you have the experience you want, with exactly the type of companion you prefer.
See my video, “Tricking Makes The Most Sense”.
In this post, I’ll discuss the foolishness of traditional dating.
The Problem With Dating
Let’s start from the assumption that the main reason why you are inviting a woman to any kind of meeting, for example, grabbing coffee, a drink, or (God forbid) dinner,… is because you want to sleep with her.
Whether you met your love interest on a dating app, a bar, or the gym: you are sexually interested in this person.
Your real objective is to enjoy a few passionate rounds of sweaty sex.
Your desire for sexual expression is as natural as breathing, and so is hers.
However, you have been programmed by capitalists to believe that, instead of getting right into primal, sweaty intercourse, like the animals we are,
That you should put on an unnecessary show of taking her somewhere, and buying her something.
You have been taught that this will somehow create the best chance of you consummating your interest.
In a bygone time ,that approach might have worked.
However,
in the modern era of “empowered”, sexually liberated women, asking for a traditional date works against you.
If you’re reading this, you already know that women sleep with whomever they want.
Modern women are not sexually reserved or shy.
They aren’t saving themselves for marriage, a committed relationship, or even knowing your last name.
If she likes you, a woman will have no problem coming straight to your apartment, or inviting you to hers.
If you’re really pushing her attraction buttons, she will be eager to slip in the parking lot to hook up with you in your car, or smile slyly when you tell her to meet you in the nearest bathroom stall.
In fact, any of these trysts will seem MORE exciting to her than the boring, romantic dinner date you have planned.
If the woman in question is over the age of 22, it won’t be the first time that she’s gotten fucked in a public place (or the last).
Beta Behavior
The main reason why taking women on dates is a bad strategy: the type of guys that she usually sleeps with, don’t take her anywhere.
When you offer to spend money, and be seen in public with a woman you haven’t slept with, you are demonstrating NPC, beta, “nice guy” behavior.
The act of inviting a woman on a traditional “date” demonstrates that you are plugged into the Matrix.
You believe all the bullshit about women being “sugar and spice”.
You are a chump, looking for a “good girl” to take home to your grandmother.
She might take you up on your offer (if she’s bored), or you suggest a new wine bar she’s been meaning to try, but she’ll already have you filed under “Beta Bucks” in her mental rolodex.
Investing in a woman before sex shows that you are old-fashioned.
As a result, she will act old-fashioned around you: demure and innocent, not the naughty little sex kitten she wants to be, with guys that “get it”.
The guys that fuck her hard, pound her into screaming orgasms, then ignore her for three weeks… you know… the kind of men she’s ACTUALLY attracted to- just invite her over to watch tv.
In fact, they tell her to bring a bottle of liquor and some Chinese food.
As such, the traditional date is not only unnecessary: it’s counterproductive.
By volunteering to buy her food, and listen to her yap, you’e acting like a pointdexter boyfriend.
Since the majority of young, attractive women aren’t looking for a boyfriend, this is a turn-off.
At best: she’ll show up on the date and play along, like the grown up version of a little girl playing dress up, hosting a tea party for her stuffed bears.
At the end of evening, after your best simp performance, holding “masculine frame”, demonstrating “alpha” body language, asking every question you can remember from “How to Win Friends and Influence People”… your date will politely peck you on the cheek, then run off to suck on the guy she’s never seen in daylight, outside of the bedroom of his dingy apartment.
How I Learned This
I’ve had a handful of experiences in my life where a woman was just attracted to me, instantly.
The most recent being my first night lay with a sultry Latina, that I met out dancing. Read my post “La Mexicana” to hear how that went.
These women just liked something about me, whatever that was.
As such, they wanted to sleep with me, inviting me over to their apartment, or suggesting we come back to my place.
One woman, who didn’t even want to wait until we found an actual bed, kissed me on the dance floor of a club, then smiled slyly as she reached down to grab my dick through my jeans.
We kissed passionately, and she led me out of the club, and into a nearby row of bushes.
She wanted me, without stopping to bother with romantic dinner or drinks.
From that evening on, we were inseparable.
She was my girlfriend for 4 years.
That experience, as well as several others that unfolded the same way, have shown me the reality of attraction, women, and sex.
If you have to take a woman on a date, she’s NOT attracted to you.
I realized that “dates” are something men think we’re supposed to do, because we’ve grown up seeing them in movies.
In reality, when women like you, they just want to be with you.
Any time you spend *not* having sex, is an obstacle to that.
Worse, it’s an opportunity for you to say or something that makes her angry: a joke that she doesn’t get, a political comment that she disagrees with, or any of the infinite, tiny things that picky women will use to disqualify a man, i.e. admitting you like anime, or haven’t taken the experimental COVID vaccine.
In my opinion, men need to spend AS LITTLE time as possible talking to a woman, ESPECIALLY before you sleep with her.
When you meet a woman that is attracted to you, treat her like other men she’s attracted to: invite her over, or invite yourself to her place.
Rinse and repeat with this strategy, until SHE suggests that she wants you to take her out, and not before.
Contrary to popular belief, with modern women, sex is first base.
Women will sleep with you, often several times, over weeks, yet have no intention of moving the relationship forward in any way.
The antidote for this behavior is to play it cool.
The modern way for men to “spin plates” is to have a lot going on socially.
Have as many fun adventures and events in your personal life as you can fit: work, a weight training routine, several hobbies, volunteering, a side hustle, a Youtube channel, etc.
You can’t control what women do.
Further, not many men are successfully juggling the interest of more than one (attractive) woman at a time.
No one is really having “success” in modern relationships and dating.
Build a life full of things that are important to you.
Take massive action on pursuing anything that interests you.
When women come into your life, invite them to your house, without spending a dime, for as long as you can. (Not including sex workers or sugar babies, etc.)
She will let you know when she’s ready for “the next step” in the relationship (being seen in public together).
-Chance