Bachelors Can Lead Completely Different Lives Than Married Men
If you’re an independent, self-governed, single man, BUT:
you’re punching the clock at a monotonous 9 to 5 job,
you drive an economical, boring sedan that “…isn’t anything flashy, but gets great gas mileage…”
are stuck in the mind numbing cycle of work> gym> take out> Pornhub> repeat…
I’m here to tell you that you’re wasting your time.
Life is short.
As far as anyone knows, this is the only one you’re going to get.
You could be out, going balls to the wall, squeezing the adventure, joy, and passion out of every moment, but you wimped out.
Following the herd, never thoughtfully considering your choices, and where your daily apathy will eventually lead… you’re letting the precious little time that you were blessed with on this planet, to slip through your fingers.
I’ve seen men squander their entire lives, stuck in this unfulfilling cycle.
In fact, I’m guilty of it myself.
It’s an easy trap to fall into.
The most horrific part is that you don’t even know you’re stuck.
Without taking the time to examine what you’re doing with your life, and why, you’re just going along with the same mind numbing routine as everyone else:
Give half assed effort at a job you despise, live to sleep late and have a few beers on the weekends.
A recent news article showed that the average Millennial invests enough time swiping on dating apps (10 hours per week, according to this article in The Independent) to have learned a language, mastered an instrument, or taught themselves how to perform open heart surgery with the hours they wasted.
If you are spending the biggest and best part of your day at work, then spending the rest of it fapping and napping on the couch- here’s your wake up call.
You are living like a fluffy, harmless, domesticated house pet, when, if you are a single man with any stones, you should be out roaming the streets, enjoying your freedom, as an ungovernable, roguish, tomcat.
Why You Want to Be A Tomcat
I can tell without asking if a man is married, or in a long term relationship, or not.
Body fat percentage is a big indicator, as well as the dazed, apathetic look in their sleepy eyes.
Having a woman at the house, while a nice convenience (sometimes), takes the fire out of a man’s belly.
He’s lost the will to hunt, like the lazy house cat who knows his owner will put the same kibble out twice a day.
The tomcat can only eat what he kills.
While no meal is guaranteed, the world is his menus, like the single guy who doesn’t know where his next romantic interlude is coming from.
The house cat is well fed and comfortable.
He has nothing to do but lie in the sun, waiting to get his belly rubbed.
(Who doesn’t like getting their belly- among other things- rubbed?)
Of course, this is a comfortable existence, but it lacks excitement, challenge, and adventure.
And if you ask the average married man, they usually complain that the belly rubs get fewer and farther between, the longer the nuptials last.
Sure, relationships are great.
However, the biggest reason why most single men spend their days longing for love, is that they’re bored.
(For more on this, see classic Solitary Beast podcast episode, “You’re Not Lonely, You’re Bored”)
You’re living a depressing, mediocre life, and you (mistakenly) think that another person will be able to fill that void, and bring some excitement into your existence.
The good news is, you’re completely wrong.
First of all, it will be almost impossible to get any woman you want to date to be interested in you, if you’re boring, predictable, and needy.
People, especially creatures as intuitive as women, can smell when you need them to like you, and they will run the other way if they sense that.
On the contrary, people, especially creatures as opportunistic as women, are much more attracted to fun, exciting, slightly dangerous men, that seem to be always embarking on some new, interesting adventure.
In short, if you’re waiting around for something “cool” to happen, let me assure you that it never will.
You’re more likely to die in that spot, swiping and scrolling, than have an exhilarating adventure, and a beautiful girlfriend come to your front door like the UPS guy.
As the title of this post plainly states, if you’re a single man, either by choice (See my post, “Why Men In Their 30s Are Still Single”), or because no woman will have you (Many such cases), today is the day to start being the best tomcat you can be.
Sleep all day, hunt all night.
Roam free.
Enjoy your independence.
Many married men, who love their children, and adore their wives, would KILL to be able to quit their job, sell their stuff, and run off to become a SCUBA diving instructor in Thailand,
Or ride a motorcycle down the Baja Peninsula of Mexico,
Or simply liberate themselves from cubicle slavery to bartend at a trendy local bar at night, and ski during the day.
You were lucky enough to be born on Earth, at the greatest time in history, with the GIFT OF CONSCIOUSNESS…
Yet you’re wasting it watching reruns of “The Office”.
Break Free
Single men don’t belong in domesticated corporate jobs.
In fact, as I wrote in my post “Create Your Own Reality”, healthy heterosexual men don’t belong in corporate jobs at all.
Corporate America, along with the UK, Canada, Australia, etc., are the domain of oversensitive women and members of various aggrieved minority groups.
Zoom meetings, Human Resources Departments, and bad fluorescent lighting are ruining your eyes, and tanking your testosterone levels, anyway.
The 40 hour per week job, complete with an HR department, matching 401K, and health insurance, was designed for a married man to support a family.
The same paycheck every month, and regular hours, to keep the mortgage paid on time, provide Junior with braces and private school, and still be home in time for dinner every night.
If this sounds like I’m mocking married men- I’m not.
The family, anchored by a man that is willing to sacrifice himself for the benefit of a woman and children, is the backbone of civilization.
If you are close to a married man, buy him a drink and offer him a word of encouragement.
He’s earned it.
I’m being heavy handed, first of all for clicks (this is a business), and secondly, to wake you boys up from your drooling slumber.
You have an amazing opportunity sitting right in your face.
Grab it by the horns.
Careers For Tomcats
Appropriate careers for single men are those that prioritize freedom: jobs where you create your own schedule, answer to no one, or have limited oversight, and write your own check with how much value you produce.
Fields like e-com, content creation, and personal services like barber, personal trainer, or consultant, where you make your own hours, and choose your clients, are well suited for the priorities of the single guy.
There is no reason to live life on a treadmill: punch a clock, fight traffic, be home on the couch by 6PM every evening,… to sit in an empty apartment alone.
In fact, I attribute most, if not all, single male “loneliness” or “depression” to the fact that you’re living the robotic, monotonous life of a man who would only be doing those things to feed his family.
However, without the wife and kids, it’s an empty, pointless existence.
A single man that is out to enjoying his freedom to the fullest, would simply have less time to pine over whether or not a woman responded to his coy dating app banter.
Ironically, that’s when he would be more likely to find one.
-Solitary Beast