Even When You “Win” With Women, You Lose
Women can be charming, alluring, lovely human beings.
There is nothing more thrilling and satisfying than the early parts of a relationship with a new love.
Your heart flutters every time she calls.
You blush when you see her smile.
Your dick jumps to attention when she touches you.
As long as you’re blessed to be alive, you should never stop improving yourself, meeting new people, and going after the life and relationships you desire.
As good as it feels to navigate all the obstacles, beat out the hordes of horny competitors, and “get the girl”, keep this in mind:
“Success” with women, in any form, is a temporary, illusionary state.
When it’s going well, enjoy it.
When it feels like Hell, expect it.
For example, you see an attractive woman picking up coffee in a local shop.
Steeled by watching hours of Todd V cold approach videos (love the guy, btw), you clear your throat, check your breath, and march over to meet her.
Hoping you look as confident as you’re trying to act, you start a conversation: “…Hey, you look interesting… I’ve never seen you here before…” or something similar you learned from the thousands of Youtube videos that come up in a search for “How to approach girls”.
Your new love interest smiles shyly, and responds, “…Yes, this is my first time here. I just started a new job in the office next door.” (Best case scenario).
She’s pretty, with beautiful skin, soft eyes, and a warm, sexy smile.
You exchange contact info, and she even seems excited to give her details.
You stride out of the shop with your chest puffed out like a superhero. You feel like you’re floating on a cloud for the rest of the day.
The next day, you ping your coffee shop cutie with a quick message.
She never responds…
Or…
In an alternate ending, she does respond.
She’s happy to hear from you, and she’s available on Friday to get together.
For the next few days, your entire body is buzzing with the anticipation of seeing her again.
On Friday, you rush home from work to get cleaned up.
You’ve been planning which shirt to wear, which cologne, which way to wear your hair…
As you’re getting dressed to leave, your phone dings.
It’s a text from the sexy Coffee Shop Girl.
Unfortunately, her grandma’s pet ferret has become suddenly ill. She’s “…Really sorry…”, but she can’t meet you tonight.
You go from tingling with excitement,… to feeling like you got the wind knocked out of you by the playground bully.
Alternate Endings
Or, she shows up Friday, at the time and place she said she would.
You share a fun (you think) first date,… then she ghosts you after.
You start dating, then she pushes you for a commitment, nags when you want to hang out with your friends, or do anything that doesn’t involve her.
You get married, then she withholds sex, gets fat, and files for divorce.
She moves out of state with her new biker gang boyfriend, and you spend the next ten years fighting in court to be able to see your kids.
The truth is,
Anytime you “win” with women, you’re really just setting yourself up to LOSE, later down the line.
This didn’t have anything to do with how successful, how masculine, how attractive, or how “alpha” you are.
In the last few months of me writing this, we’ve all seen the wealthiest, most successful, most handsome men on the planet take massive public Ls with women.
High profile men such as Johnny Depp, Tom Brady, Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, Will Smith, Steph Curry, and too many others to name, have been embarrassed at the hands of women.
Why do you think your fate would be any different?
For more on this, see my post “How Getting The Woman Of Your Dreams Is A Nightmare”