Women That Aren’t Interested In You Don’t Exist
This rule of “game”, or just men’s mental health, isn’t expressed bluntly, or often, enough.
From puberty, until old age, men squander the equivalent of YEARS of our lives, pining after women who will never reciprocate our interest.
We waste valuable time, languishing in the “Friend Zone”, harboring crushes on women who either don’t know we exist, and if they do know, don’t care.
I’ve been one of those hopeless guys, too many times.
Dozens of times, I’ve nursed crushes, for months, or years, on a woman who had already made it clear that she didn’t want me.
I thought I was being romantic, like the lovable loser guys in sappy movies, who eventually get the girl, after years of pining for her like a puppy dog.
A Profitable Lie
Exacerbating this problem is dating coaches and “game” gurus who perpetuate the lie.
With just the right lines, and just the right strategy (available for instant download at the low price of $999.00USD), they claim any man can learn the “hidden secrets” to attracting any woman he wants.
The truth would cause sales of their PDF courses and downloadable videos to drop off a cliff.
Magic lines, lifting weights, or even the classic “Just go talk to her, bro”,
won’t work to get “any woman you want”.
See my post “Any Woman You Want?”
Self-Impr00vement
Game, “self-impr00vement”, money, or anything else you could try don’t work on ANY woman.
Game, self-improvement, financial success, etc., as strategies, are intended to INCREASE the amount of women that want you.
Regardless of fantasies peddled on the internet, as a man, the only thing you will ever be able to do is pick from the women that are already interested in you.
Hopefully there’s a cute one in the bunch.
God help you if there’s not.
A woman decides within seconds if she will ever be interested in sleeping with you.
If you pass her initial assessment, there’s still a lot you can do to ruin your chances.
For example, have you ever heard a women sigh, in exasperation, “He was SO cute… until he opened his mouth!!”.
If you fail her initial assessment, however, there is nothing you can ever do to change her mind.
Sure, we’ve all heard stories about men winning women over with persistence.
In every case I know of, these stories happened before women classified all unwanted attention from men as “harassment”.
Next, most such stories involve a man convincing a woman to give him a second chance, not of him overcoming her complete lack of interest.
Men could save themselves both irreplaceable time and valuable emotional energy by learning to quickly identify the signs that a woman is not interested in him, and allocating his attention elsewhere.
You must discipline yourself to focus only on women that communicate their interest in you,
and completely forget about ones that don’t.
“Game”
Game doesn’t get you the women you want, it gets more women to want you.
If you’re reading this, you likely already understand:
1. Women are extremely picky
2. They don’t care about sex or relationships as much as men do (See my post, “The Myth of Female Loneliness”)
3. They have unlimited options with men for most of their lives.
There are men in her DMs on Instagram, hundreds of matches on swipe apps, and dozens of men that hit on her IRL: co-workers in the office, muscular Chads at the gym, dorky, aspiring pick up artists trying their scripted “openers” on her in line at Starbucks.
You
On the other hand, even if you lift, meditate, exfoliate, and make a million dollars, etc., you can go days without a single match on dating apps, DMs dry as the Mojave Desert, and avoid making eye contact with women in the gym, for fear of being internationally humiliated on TikTok.
There will be a precious few women, in your entire life, that will ever be romantically or sexually interested in you.
Game coaches need to be honest about this.
Your desire for women will ALWAYS be EXPONENTIALLY greater than women’s collective desire for you.
This is a simple supply and demand issue that will never be solved.
You have to focus on the very small number of women that ever give you the time of day.
Women who AREN’T attracted to you, might as well not exist.
The idea that you will be able to reverse a woman’s opinion of you based on “game” is theoretically possible, but happens so rarely, that it’s not worth wasting a second of your precious 80 or so years on Earth.
What Does Work
Ironically, the fastest way to increase a woman’s attraction to you, if she is on the fence, is simply for her to see you with another attractive woman.
All the more reason to focus on girls that like you.
To be clear: the ROI, and probability of it happening are so slim, there’s zero reason in trying to “game” women that aren’t into you.
If men simply ignored the 99% of women who will never be romantically interested in them, women would APPRECIATE it, and men would free up hours of available time to focus on anything else.
Find A Woman Who Likes You, Learn To Appreciate Her
Women choose which men get access to sex and romantic relationships.
That’s the point of this whole post.
Nobody in this community wants to admit it, but as a man, in terms of sex, you have to take what you can get
There’s no secret strategies or hacks to get around it, other than paying directly. See my post, “How A Middle Aged Handyman Dates Models”.
In my work about sugar babies, I have explained in detail that even when putting cash in a woman’s hand, she will STILL only respond to you the way you want if you’re actually attractive.
Some men get more options than others, based on genetic advantages such as height, being traditionally handsome, or simply being white and dating Asian women.
“Self-impr00vement” can only help somewhat, and doesn’t help everyone equally.
A self-improvement journey can take years, and will only move the needle slightly for many men who attempt it.
Zero to 4,… In 3 Years
A man who isn’t getting laid at all will see some improvement in his chances with women, once he invests in hygiene, style, taking care of his body, and being more socially active.
However, (NOBODY talks about this) but the biggest ROI on “self-improvement” happens on the front end.
It’s EASY to go from zero dates, to getting laid with women 2 - 3 points BELOW YOU from dating apps.
That’s what dating apps are for:
For less desirable women to fuck guys that wouldn’t talk to them irl.
(It’s only 3 steps: 1. Look good with your shirt off, 2. Pay for premium, 3. Ask women out)
Once a man starts taking his dating life seriously, the relative attractiveness of the women he can get is set at that level.
If you go from skinny fat, smelly, and badly dressed, to taking care of yourself and actually approaching women, the women that come into your life, are the type of women you can get.
You’re not going to “Level Up” in game, to start to attract hotter girls. (Unless you get lucky.)
The only exception to dramatically increasing your selection of women is MASSIVELY raising your status: becoming a professional athlete (better start practicing) or internet celebrity.
The quickest, most attainable strategy for attracting hotter women, as a regular guy, is becoming a High Status Guy within a niche, simply becoming a bartender at a popular nightspot, a well known local DJ, yoga teacher, or dance instructor.
When you (finally) meet a woman that is interested in you (most won’t be) she won’t look like the girls you fantasize about.
You have two choices:
Learn to appreciate the positive, attractive qualities of a real life woman who is making herself available to you
Go back to the mean streets of unanswered texts, quiet weekends, and lonely nights.
If you’re familiar with this blog, you already know I’ve chosen the latter.