Dating Post Dream Girl
At this point, the woman I considered my “dream girl” has broken things off with me twice, two years in a row.
I accustomed to the dull ache of missing her, intermixed with flashes of anger when I remember how coldly she cut me off.
The first few months I was in shock.
Shock receded into deep depression.
Depression mellowed into emotionless apathy.
I just feel numb.
On the outside, to friends, neighbors, and co-workers, I’m sure I seem fine.
I rarely mention her name.
I’m approaching and dating new women.
My days are filled with work, weight training, and hobbies: skiing, jiu jitsu, and climbing.
I think about this past love all the time, but mostly because I’m wondering when I will stop thinking about it.
I don’t want her to come back.
We haven’t spoken in months, and I hope we never cross paths again.
…So why do I still dream about her?
Look as good as you can, Stay as busy as possible
My best advice for healing from a break up is
Look as good as you can: drop body fat, put some size on your chest, shoulders, back, and arms. Get an expensive haircut and beard trim. Buy a new cologne. Shop for new shoes, and 4-5 new outfits.
Stay as busy as possible: join a new gym, train a martial art 2- 3 times a week, work longer hours, take up physically strenuous activities like mountain biking, trail running, or training for an Ironman.
Start approaching. I’ve criticized cold approach in the past, however, at the time of this writing, it has been the most effective strategy for meeting new friends and potential women to date. At 43, I wasn’t matching the same amount of attractive, younger women as I did at 39, when 30% of my matches were desirable women in their mid- late 20s to early 30s. I’m older, but dating apps seem to be less effective for everyone. Dating apps are in their Facebook era, obsolete, but still dragging along. Go out and talk to women.
Breakups suck.
There’s nothing you can do but focus your energy outward.
While you’re suffering inwardly, you can at least look lean, jacked, and charming on the outside.
Never surrender
-Chance