Corey Wayne Gets (THIS) Wrong About Modern Dating, Part 1
Many years ago, when I was at the end of my rope with being friend zoned, flaked on, or ghosted by woman after woman, I found Corey Wayne’s Youtube channel and seminal book, “How to Be A 3% Man”.
His words finally accomplished the impossible: clearing the cloudy haze of confusion from my mind, by explaining how to create and maintain attraction with women.
Following Corey’s teachings, along with several key others, guided me from lost to locked in.
I went on to date several attractive women, famously seducing, then re-attracting my “dream girl”. See my post “Dream Girl Returns?”.
Today, I’m still employing his techniques, in my current burgeoning relationship with a cute, bubbly, feminine woman 14 years younger than my current age of 43.
As I continued to study the art of seduction, and through trial and error, I discovered that some of Corey’s teachings, written in 2004, don’t hold up to dating in the cell phone age.
Several of Corey’s techniques, such as waiting 3 days to call a woman after getting her number, and only contacting a woman once a week, will flat out fail every single time in the modern era.
With all due respect to a man who’s work helped me finally create and enjoy the romantic relationships I’d always desired, here are the top 5 strategies that will blow up in your face, should you try to use them in the age of Instagram, swipe apps, and TikTok dating content.
Going for the kiss on the first date
Corey Wayne teaches men to lean in for the kiss at the end of the first date, to test if the woman is interested.
That’s a fine, but predictable, strategy.
It makes sense.
Why squander your precious time and hard earned money on a second date with a woman that isn’t feeling you?
However, I take a different approach.
I originally learned this strategy from Youtuber Alpha Male Strategies, back in 2019.
His technique is to not kiss, or even touch a woman on the first date.
In that old video, AMS advises men to sit back, relax, and enjoy the evening.
Flirt, ask questions, be charming and sexy,… but don’t touch her, or even indicate that you want to.
You display the calm, confident body language, and laid back demeanor of a man who is experienced enough in dating to kiss her,… if you wanted to.
The fact that you’re not even leaning in confuses her.
“Why isn’t he trying to kiss me?”, she wonders.
As AMS explains, by already deciding you’re not going to kiss her, (unless she makes the move first), you increase the sexual tension of the experience for the woman.
She has to replay the events of the evening to decipher what she might have said or done to turn you off.
Additionally, many women have a rule: “I don’t kiss on the first date”.
Even if you execute the evening perfectly, they are primed to reject you because of their arbitrary rule.
By not even trying for the kiss, you remove the opportunity for the woman to reject you, and you increase her attraction by forcing her to wonder about you.
Every time I’ve tried this, it has worked perfectly.
Two different women, who later became my girlfriends, confessed that my lack of initiating touch, or a kiss, other than the greeting hug (Read “There Is No Touch Barrier”) had them questioning whether they would ever see me again at the end of the night.
In every case, we didn’t even kiss on the first meet up, but we slept together on the second. See my post, “Sex on the Second Date”.
Women fall in love when they are thinking about you:
wondering where you are,
what you’re doing,
who you’re with,
if you like her,
if you’re gonna call her this weekend.
This is (one) reason why women love the roller coaster of chasing “bad boys”.
The chemical cocktail of wondering if a man (that she’s attracted to), is interested in her, is women’s most coveted emotional experience.
That’s why they detonate like an atomic bomb, and reject you immediately, when you ruin the experience for them by communicating your interest too overtly.
(to be continued…)