I'm Finally Over My Breakup

I’m finally over my breakup.

After a 259 day tumult of emotions that ranged from agony, to despair, to hopelessness, I made it to the other side.

It feels amazing.

The thing about dating your “dream girl”, is that one day, you’re going to have to say good bye.

Most relationships don’t make it “til death do us part”.

One person (usually the woman) call it quits due to cheating, insecurity, financial problems, and often just because she’s bored.

Though I suffered in excruciating misery for the better part of nine months straight, I eventually overcame that struggle, emerging from the darkness with hard won life lessons under my belt.

Here on the other side, I’m smarter and wiser.

I understand myself, women, and relationships on a deeper level than ever before.

Every time I reflect on the experience of being loved by ideal woman, then losing her (twice) I see a new aspect I didn’t notice before, like watching a movie the second time.

Like all good heartbreaks, it exposed my frailest weaknesses, my deepest insecurities, and my most glaring inadequacies.

At the same time, there’s a lot I’m proud of about that experience.

I was able to attract, seduce, and get into a relationship with a the type of woman I had always dreamed of being with.

Not many men can say that.

All my hard work, and previous mistakes, and failures, with women paid off.

I spent nine months with a woman I considered my (almost) ideal girlfriend bouncing off my dick, cooking me gourmet meals, lavishing me with praise, every chance she got.

She gushed about me to her friends, and showed me off proudly to her parents.

I felt validated, chosen, desired, and wanted.

Being with her felt like brandishing a trophy.

My chest used to swell with pride as we walked into swanky restaurants.

I loved showing off my dream girl: long hair, warm smile, and sexy legs.

My memories of that time with her are still some of my lifetime favorites.

Now that it’s over, I think a lot about everything I did wrong, and how I can be better in new relationships going forward.

New Relationships

I’m sure some of you are asking if I’m seeing anyone else by now, nine months since this breakup that I keep going on and on about.

At the time of this writing, I’ve been seeing a cute, bubbly, fun woman in her late 20s for a little over 4 months.

We spend a lot of time together: cuddling in movies, playing Scrabble, making dinner, going out with friends, and singing karaoke.

She’s a total sweetheart.

The best way to get over an old love is to get under (or on top of, or behind..) a new one.

We’re planning weekends camping, and trips to the coast.

Frankly, it’s difficult to date anyone after being with a woman that I adored.

However, I’m having fun, giving my new girl exciting experiences, affection, and great sex.

When my mind wanders to the past with my dream woman, I force myself into the present.

I’m dating a new woman, who adores me, which is only way male-female relationships can work.

I’ve been completely honest with her that I have no intention of ever being in a monogamous relationship.

She hasn’t objected yet, but we’ll see.

Conclusion

I’m finally in a place where I can look back and say I’m thankful for that breakup.

I dated a sexy, intelligent, warm, and loving woman.

The circumstances around her: having small children, and an uncomfortably close relationship with the kids’ father, made it very difficult for me to feel relaxed, and ultimately caused the end of our time together.

Knowing what I know now, I would have tried harder to stick it out with her, be brave, and see what happened.

Women like that (sexy, intelligent, funny, feminine, etc) simply aren’t single very often, or for very long.

It’s possible, maybe even likely, that I won’t ever be with someone I have such strong feelings for, ever again.

On one hand, that seems really sad.

On the other, that’s what makes it special.

-Chance