How to Be Like Your Heroes
My hero is a hulking, muscular millionaire blogger.
He’s written four physical books, several e-books, guides, and hundreds of blog posts that have helped and inspired thousands of men all over the world.
He owns a company that sells powerful bodybuilding supplements, mass gainers, nootropics, and two signature coffees, and is completely location independent.
Living the enviable life of a “digital nomad”, he travels exotic countries, making money online from a variety of successful ventures.
Most importantly, his work changes men’s lives with thought provoking writing on topics like internet marketing, bodybuilding, and spirituality.
Like me, he started off under performing at uninspiring jobs, knowing that he was capable of much more. He had nothing, but he believed in himself.
I aspire to be just like that guy, minus the racial animus, of course.
I started this blog, Solitary Beast, with the intention to follow in his footsteps as a leader of men, and replicate his massive success in my own life.
Results are repeatable
No matter what your ultimate goal may be, I have good news:
the blueprint for success is already laid out for you.
Simply choose a stellar performer in your field, then study their process.
By replicating his actions, you have NO CHOICE but to produce similar results.
It’s just like following a recipe.
The same cake can be baked over and over and over again, by anyone on Earth, if they have:
the same recipe,
the same ingredients,
the same tools,
the same temperature settings,
and follow everything step by step.
Imagine a baker using a family recipe passed down from several generations, that originated in their family’s home country.
Generations later, on the other side of the world, she can recreate the same dishes her great grandmother crafted, just be following the original recipe.
I was first exposed to this concept through Tony Robbins book, Awaken the Giant within. I realize half of you just rolled your eyes at reading his name.
People either love or hate self-help gurus like Robbins, and either love or hate the idea of self-development in general.
Some criticisms of “self-help” are that it’s cheesy, it’s bullshit, it’s a lot of positive thinking nonsense that won’t get you anywhere. I can’t disagree with any of those judgments.
Too many people take positive thinking maxims out of context. Quotes about “hard work” and “success” get overused, made into laughable memes in Instagram #hustle and #entrepreneur culture.
However, the key principle of self-development, which is the idea that you have the ability to take control and make your life however you want it be.
For me, it’s empowering.
After all, I’ve committed my life to writing a blog subtitled, “Self Improvement for Sigma Males”.
Modeling
Within Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), there is a technique called “modeling”.
You already instinctively know how to do it.
We’ve all been studying successful people and copying their behavior since birth.
Modeling is how you learned to stand up, then take your first wobbly steps. After toppling over dozens, or hundreds of times, you eventually mastered walking.
Modeling is based on one of the core beliefs, or presuppositions of NLP: “Any result is repeatable.” T
his simple aphorism was one of the most empowering statements I’ve ever read.
Any outcome in the universe can be studied, broken down, copied, and replicated by anyone else.
It’s as simple as identifying the successful person you want to emulate, then “mastering the beliefs, physiology, and specific thought processes (that is the strategies) that underlie the skill or behavior”. -L. Michael Meta, NLP-mentor.com.
As written in NLP Modeling: The Ultimate Guide,
“The purpose of NLP modeling is to find someone who’s really good at something, observe and imitate that person like a little kid and then, once I become as good as them, start figuring out what the heck she’s doing that makes it work, so I can teach that skill to other people.” (dailynlp.com/nlp-modeling/)
Understanding this idea takes all the stress out of becoming successful. That doesn’t mean it will be easy, or quick, just that it’s possible, and you already know what to do. You become the little boy practicing shaving his smooth baby face in the mirror because he’s watched his dad do it every morning.
In my pursuit of an influential and profitable blogging business, I simply study the master, like a diligent apprentice. Like a Method actor committed to his craft, I become the mentor by completely embodying his beliefs and thought processes.
Is that obsessive? Sure sounds like it.
Be obsessed.
Just as another one of my heroes, Arnold Schwarzenegger quipped, “Obsessed is the word the lazy use to describe the dedicated".
Only unsuccessful people will criticize your commitment to chasing your dreams, because it makes them feel better about their own failures.
Only your fat, sloppy co-workers will tease you when you pack a salad instead of going out for burgers and fries with them every day.
Only your broke friends will roll their eyes when you take another job to pay down your debts.
Ignore them.
Successful people that went after their goals, and nailed them, will support you. Instead, they’ll offer words of advice or introduce you to helpful connections.
Study successful people.
Don’t talk about your goals with the uninspired and unmotivated.
Write down your plans.
Think from the end.
Visualize the achievements you want most.
Don’t be afraid to work harder and wait longer than you thought.
Don’t give up.