She Wants You to (Be Able) to Cheat On Her

Like everything else about women, this one is counterintuitive and the opposite of how you rationally think the world would work.

There’s things about women you’ll never understand: until you’ve been in a relationships with women, then it still won’t make sense.

Among the mistakes I made in my last dating relationship, (there were a couple big ones), the most egregious was that I stopped pursuing other women.

At the time, I considered my now ex-girlfriend to be the closest to my dream woman as I’ve ever been with.

Physically, she is fit and trim, with a megawatt smile.

She wears her chestnut curls long and tousled.

The first time I saw that tight little body poured into tight jeans and a pair of heels, my eyes popped out of my skull like a cartoon character.

She walks with a confident, sultry swagger, showcasing all her curves: shapely thighs, a sexy round butt.

She’s Got Personality

As we shared more time together, I fell even more in love with her character.

She’s everything any man would want in girlfriend:

-intelligent

-feminine

-generous

-playful

-loving

-funny

-kind,

yet surprisingly humble.

She’s an incredible package and I feel very lucky to have had the experience of being with her.

My Biggest Mistake

In my mind, I had already found the best woman on Earth for me.

I was content to stop looking, and I took my foot of the gas.

One thing that drives women crazy in a relationship is when a man lacks ambition.

Satisfied with my luck in finding a fit, attractive woman that claimed to love me, I got comfortable.

Of course, I continued to build my career, stayed fit with weights and running, and occasionally spent time with friends.

However, I cut back on the type of dragon slaying and world building that titillates women in long term relationships.

If I wasn’t at work, or with my girlfriend, I was at home.

My ex-girlfriend never had to wonder about where I was, or if I was talking to other women.

I thought I was being a “good boyfriend” by being loyal when we weren’t together.

To her, however, I must have seemed safe, stagnant, and stale.

Catch-22

Part of the reason is that I felt safe in my relationship with a woman that looked deep into my eyes and swore she adored me.

The other reason is that having a girlfriend, at least the way I was doing it, is expensive.

I brought my ex everywhere.

We tried different restaurants, bars, and sushi spots all over my city. I insisted on paying for everything.

To save money, I started cutting my own hair and cancelled my gym membership.

When we weren’t together, I went running, did home improvement projects, and walked my dogs.

It would have been better to simply work more, earning enough money to afford both a girlfriend and a social life outside of our relationship.

Instead of quiet evenings at home when my girlfriend was with her kid, I should have forced myself to going out to bars, playing pool, training jiu jitsu, and hiking.

A woman NEEDS to feel like she has to fight to keep her man.

She needs to wonder where he is, what he’s doing, who he’s with, who he’s talking to, and if he’s cheating.

She PREFERS this, to the quiet guy that stays home on Saturday nights.

Getting in a relationship is just the beginning; keeping the woman interested is the real test of skill.

To quote The Mystery Method, “keeping a woman around is an active process”.

Your Girlfriend Is Not Your Mom

She said she loved me.

My ex-girlfriend used to cook for me, shower me with kisses, and give me all the wet, passionate sex I could handle (on nights she didn’t have her child).

I felt comfortable, safe, and happy in my relationship, and as a result, I completely relaxed.

I stayed in shape, ran a few half marathon races, and brought my then-girlfriend on fun, interesting dates, and paid for everything.

This is called “necessary, but not sufficient”.

I’d argue that she might have stayed with me longer if I let her pay for some of our outings, and just been more of a mystery when we weren’t together.

Relationship coach Geoffrey Setiawan has said, “It’s not about the 99 things you do, it’s about the ONE THING you DON’T do”.

The fundamental error men make in a relationship is imagining that your girlfriend will love you unconditionally, like your mother did (if you’re lucky).

The key to game is to keep pushing, even within the relationship.

Be selfish, have options, and a life outside of your girlfriend.

Your girlfriend really doesn’t want you to cheat on her, she just wants to know you could.