There is no “touch barrier”

The best way to break the so called “touch barrier” on the first interaction with a woman is to never let it exist at all.

Don’t sit next to your date, sweating bullets, trying to strategically plan the exact moment you will place your hand on her lower back.

Skip all that stress by simply hugging her first.

The second the date starts, when you or she walk up to each other in the bar or cafe, just smile, say hello, and lean in for a hug.

Job done.

This seems obvious to me, but when I do this with women I’ve dated, they later told me they were “surprised” by the move, and that they appreciated it.

Most guys aren’t using this dead simple technique, missing the opportunity to start creating intimacy with their woman right away.

Like two old friends

When you greet a woman with a smile, and a warm hug, you magically transform the interaction from an awkward dating app meetup, to a relaxed hang out between old friends.

In my last relationship, I realized how much many women depend on men for emotional regulation.

My former girlfriend would call me after a tough work meeting and share how much she wished she could drop everything and come to meet me, so I could comfort and hold her.

Women feed off a man’s energy.

When you display comfort and familiarity, especially right at the beginning of the interaction, she can sit back, relax, and enjoy herself.

The hug is like a soft warm blanket.

It will feel good to your date and she won’t really understand why.

She will associate those relaxed, comfortable feelings with you, and (if you execute several other things correctly) start to unconsciously crave being with you.

Let her feel you

When I greet a woman with a hug, I wrap her in my arms, give her a squeeze, then pull away, leaving her wanting more.

It lasts only a few seconds, but the impact leaves a big impression.

First of all, I’m touching her.

For a brief moment, she can feel my full body pressed against hers.

She’s already attracted to me, which is why she’s on the date.

Physical contact ratchets that attraction into the stratosphere.

She can feel my lean, fighter’s physique through my clothes.

I wrap my arms around her waist and squeeze, letting her experience my strength, smell my cologne, and briefly imagine what it will be like to be sexual with me.

The hug is all above board, not copping a feel or being overly sexual (although I can see that working for some guys, in the right context).

The key to the hug is to give her a sample of my strong, athletic body, then leave her wanting more.

This guy fucks

Only a masculine, confident man will stride up to a woman, wrap her in his arms, and say hello.

Women can sense that they’re not dealing with a shy, unassertive guy who feels awkward around women.

In less than 10 seconds, I turned a meeting into a date.

We’re not corporate colleagues grabbing a coffee together.

We’re a man and a woman on a romantic encounter.

Rather than taking an hour to establish myself as a sexual being, I set the frame immediately.

She can tell that I know what I’m doing.

This intoxicates women.

Conclusion

Hug her immediately, then don’t touch her again at all.

On a date, I make the woman work for all physical contact after the hug.

Because I’m not touching her, she doesn’t know for sure if I’m just friendly with everyone, or if I’m actually interested in her.

As they say, “uncertainty is an aphrodisiac”.

She likes me, so she needs to figure me out: she’ll scoot closer to me, rest her hand on my arm, or thigh, while she’s talking, or lean in as if she inviting me for a kiss.

I don’t kiss on the first date, which often leaves women even more confused.

That’s the point.

-Chance