You Must Make Women Feel This Emotion In Modern Dating
In dating and relationships, the only emotion women feel towards you, as a man, is attraction.
Not loyalty
Not devotion
Certainly not “love”
Attraction.
That’s it.
If you want to keep a woman in your life, it is imperative for you to be attractive all the time, the whole time.
Attraction
Women don’t actually love you.
What she calls “love”, while looking deeply into your eyes, stroking your dick, and nuzzling her head into your chest, is really the strong chemical cocktail of attraction coursing through her veins.
Describing “attraction” as “love” is like equating a push broom with a bulldozer.
The two are not even closely related.
Love sounds permanent.
It seems stable, like something you can trust, rely on, and count on in tough times.
“Attraction” doesn’t sound permanent, trustworthy, or reliable, and it’s not.
Unfortunately, the emotions your wife or girlfriend feels toward you is really just “attraction”, and is solely based on her feelings about your behavior and performance, in any given moment.
If things are going well with you and a woman, it’s because she feels attracted to you, at that time.
If you stop being attractive, she can, and will, stop feeling attracted to you, at a moment’s notice.
Then she’ll leave.
Love? Gone.
Relationship? Over.
Love
Women “love” their girlfriends, their mom, their pets, and matcha lattes from Starbucks.
Additionally, evolution has wired women to unconditionally love and care for their children.
Towards you, as a man, she only feels visceral, instant, attraction, or nothing.
Every experience you have ever had with a woman, other than your own mother or grandmother, has hinged on whether or not she felt sexually attracted to you.
This includes female co-workers, friends, women on dating apps, at the gym, and in every aspect of your daily life.
As such,
the most important thing you can do to improve your life as a man, is to be as sexually attractive to women, as is possible for you.
I’ll skip the boring, platitudes about the gym, cold showers, and black coffee.
Those trite admonitions, were worn out in 2021, and they’re even more laughable now.
As I wrote in my post “5 Habits of Men Who Are Getting Laid More Than You” men who are most successful with women are never fastidious “self-improvers”.
It sounds good on podcasts and Youtube videos, but the David Goggins/ Marine Corps boot camp instructor personality is a turn off to women.
Women like lightness: teasing, silliness, shiny objects, and surprises.
The stoic Greek statue, that can’t share an ice cream cone, or a glass of wine with her, will fail every time.
It’s Not Looks
Ironically, looks are not nearly as important as most men think they are.
I’ve maintained for years, a healthy body fat percentage (12-18% for most men), and enough muscle mass to look good with your shirt off:
Wide shoulders,
broad back,
thick chest,
developed arms,
ab definition,
is more than good enough for the overwhelming majority of women.
Getting bigger than that is a matter of personal preference, and a worthy pursuit, if you enjoy it.
Will you attract substantially more women by investing the extra effort into going beyond basic fitness?
Probably not.
Close, But No Cigar
Now that we understand what’s at stake, let’s discuss the #1 most effective way to ignite the powerful emotion of attraction in women.
Promise me that you will use this advice for good, not evil…
We all know that female attraction is triggered by hypergamy.
As such, the most effective way to enflame attraction in women is to get her to feel that she is not exactly “good enough” for you.
She needs to feel that she is close, but not quite there, in terms of being the type of woman that you are usually interested in.
This is most effective when it’s true.
If you convey, without ever actually saying it, that she’s slightly not up to par with your usual type, then you’re communicating higher status relative to her:
Hypergamy activated.
Keep in mind that she must first see you as at least minimally sexually attractive.
The more attractive the better, but as long as the woman thinks you are at least “cute”, and could see herself sleeping with you, this works.
The Magic Weapon
To create and maintain attraction with women, the magic weapon most guys don’t know about is teasing.
Eighty percent of your time with your girl, which should be as limited as possible, praise her.
Chill, have silly conversations, goofy jokes, and get her to talk about herself
Pepper her with affection and kisses.
Earnestly compliment the qualities and behaviors you appreciate about her.
Slap her butt, tell her you love her new hairstyle, the color of her nails, and the way she perfectly seared the ribeye she cooked for dinner.
However, the 20% where you feel she could do a little better: tease her mercilessly.
Obviously, avoid below the belt, or mean, negative comments.
As I explained, this presses hard on her “hypergamy” button, building her attraction for you.
Putting her down will do the opposite, causing her to see you as cruel and insensitive.
Be gentle, playful, and have no desire to hurt her feelings, just make her laugh, and subtly remind her that she has not fully won you over… yet.
You’ll know it’s working when she blushes, rolls her eyes, and giggles like a schoolgirl.
Proper teasing is the verbal equivalent of foreplay.
It stokes her emotions, ignites passion, and brings you closer.
Most important, it gently reminds her that she is dating someone she doesn’t fully deserve, the most attractive quality in a man.