Femininity is the Ultimate Female Dating Strategy
Within the realm of Reddit’s infamous “Female Dating Strategies”, the BIGGEST failure (if I had to pick just one) is that they go on,
and ON,
and ON about their requirements of a “High Value Male”.
Women of this mindset are very specific about their demands: listing his grooming habits, body type, financial status, and more.
However, they never stop to ask:
“What does a man like that, want in a woman?”
The sense of entitlement involved is typical of modern women.
Little girls are taught they can (and should) “Have it all”: education, career, “Sex In The City” lifestyle. Later, when she decides she’s ready, a wonderful man arrives to give her a family.
Somehow, every single woman alive believes she is a special princess who “deserves” a handsome, successful man to appear out of thin air and sweep her off her feet.
In this alternate reality, EVERY woman automatically receives a 6 foot tall, 6 pack abs, 6 figure earning man, like Oprah handing out sedans.
How women think they’re going to get a Top Quality man.
Regardless of her appearance, her weight, her attitude, her femininity, (or, lack thereof) all modern women expect a man, not even a decent, regular guy, but a handsome Disney prince, to come fall in love with them.
The Real World Doesn’t Work Like That
Tyler Durden tried to warn men on the dangers of fantasy in Fight Club:
“We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars, but we won't.
We're slowly learning that fact.
And we're very, VERY, pissed off.”
Women experience this disappointment at age 30, one by one, like lemmings diving off a cliff.
Women have chosen political correctness over facts.
No one is allowed to tell them that their peak sexual attractiveness (i.e., their BEST chance to secure a commitment of a High Value Man) is a SMALL window with an abrupt ending.
As such, when women mature into their 30s and older, they are shocked at this simple biological reality.
Surprise grows into confusion, then into bitterness cynicism, and blame.
The bitter leftover woman sneers at men as “childish”, “immature”.
She falsely labels men as “pedophiles” for dating adult women younger than her.
She makes unfounded claims that grown men are “intimidated” by her Bachelor of Arts degree, financed Nissan Altima, and pointless job in Human Resources.
By 35, a never married, single woman is disillusioned that the fantasy she was promised hasn’t materialized. She slowly starts to realize that Prince Charming isn’t coming.
As Ayn Rand wrote,
“You can ignore reality, but you can’t ignore the consequences of ignoring reality”.
That frustration is the birthplace of the online henhouses for single women, for example, Reddit’s, Female Dating Strategies.
Communities like FDS will continue to grow as more angry women hit the wall.
Ironically, women in FDS see the growth of that community as success, when the exact opposite is true.
Only angry, frustrated women turn to such hate groups, and because the “strategy” promoted there doesn’t work, women STAY in the community, as they try and fail to secure a man.
The fact that Female Dating Strategies is growing is proof that it isn’t effective.
If it worked, more women would be married, taking care of their husband, not logging in to post memes about “pick meishas” that are in relationships.
Post after post, confused women try to figure out why a charming prince hasn’t ridden up on a white horse to sweep them off their feet, like he did in all the Disney movies they watched growing up.
Within the United States, there are currently more single women than at any other time in recorded history. As women become less and less attractive to the average man, it their numbers will continue to explode.
Women refuse to look in the mirror to consider that their “strategies” are not working.
Instead of figuring out what High Value Men are attracted to, and embodying those traits, they obstinately dig in their heels.
They place higher and higher standards: expensive dinners, arbitrary waiting periods for sex, on the ever decreasing population of men that is even paying them attention.
The aging FDS woman is MORE demanding than she was when she was younger, thinner, and prettier.
She is HARDER to please than the younger women who already have an advantage in competition for top men.
Asking a man to choose between a beautiful, fun, 24 year old who loves spontaneous sex, and a bitchy, 37 year old, ballbuster who wants to negotiate sex like a labor contract is never going to work out well for the older woman.
Now is a great time to invest in companies that produce cat food and boxed wine.
If What You Are Doing Isn’t Working, Try Anything Else
By contrast, self-improvement is a pillar the Red Pill and Pickup Artist communities online.
Online communities for men do not waste men’s time with fairy tales that women will someday come along and “love him for who he is”.
Instead, a man who goes online to find out why he’s striking out with women will be firmly instructed to make himself more attractive.
He will be MERCILESSLY critiqued; told to commit his energies to enhancing all aspects of his body, finances, and personality.
The romantically frustrated man will be told that it is HIS responsibility to BUILD HIMSELF into the kind of man women respond to.
Common Red Pill advice to frustrated men is:
Hit the gym
Drop body fat
Build muscle mass
Get an attractive haircut
Improve personal style
Overcome social anxiety
improve his social skills
Earn more money
Make his living space clean and comfortable
Men understand this instinctively, and get to work.
Depending on where he starts, this can take a guy anywhere from months, to several years.
But, it will work.
A man that improves his looks and charisma can go from hopeless nerd to Pussy Slayer in a year or less. from Looksmax.me
A man that goes from regularly rejected, to successful with women will have transformed his entire life.
This is something I experienced, which took a couple years.
I went from unimpressive, and skinny fat to 10% body fat, with muscular shoulders, and ripped abs.
My journey took me from lonely, social outcast to charming ladies’ man, dating several woman, with a great group of friends.
A few short years ago, I was getting friendzoned by women I wouldn’t even look at today. Now I’m dating and sleeping with several feminine, beautiful women at a time.
In the process, I got rejected dozens, even HUNDREDS of times.
The pain of those rejections fueled me to chase improvement. I put faith in the process. I knew my life would get better if I put the work in.
This transformation demanded hours in the gym, strict dieting, a commitment to relentlessly improving my social skills
I studied stacks of books about seduction and attraction. I became obsessed with understanding women and getting better with them.
Even women who think PUA is “sexist”, at least have to respect the amount of discipline and willpower it takes to become a completely different (sexually attractive) man.
This is why men who conquer this crucible gleefully “spin plates”.
It doesn’t make sense to go through all that effort to sleep with just one woman.
Whatever your stance on PUA, it’s undeniable that it produces results.
Women are drawn to a man that takes pride in his body, style, social skills, and career.
A man like that will eventually start to experience success in dating and seduction. Once he does, it starts to snowball.
In stark opposition to Female Dating Strategies, beginner Pick Up Artists are coached to cast a wide net.
He starts off approaching ANY halfway decent looking woman.
He dates one woman, employing techniques he’s learned from the PUA and Red Pill communities.
His confidence improves, and that only attracts more women to him. It is well known that women love confidence, and they like a man who is popular with other women.
This is one reason why women love so called fuck boys. It’s why many women find a married man so attractive.
He dates another woman, and another one, and another one, until he has a full harem of attractive women.
Even the most previously hopeless guy will have totally transformed his life in a year.
This approach will not EVER attract any man, much less an attractive one, who can date women that ARE feminine, submissive, and sexually attractive.
This is terrible advice that will keep women single forever.
Why Female Dating “Strategies” Fails
An attractive man knows better than to let a woman string him along for months without sex.
Women wouldn’t be attracted to a man that thinks so little of himself.
Women, not men, deregulated the sexual marketplace.
Within hookup culture, sex on the first evening is common. Dates are not even necessary. Couples often meet, get drunk, and end up in bed together within hours of meeting. Most men would start laughing if a woman suggesting she was arbitrarily holding out for some Steve Harvey recommended amount of time.
How Can Women Make Themselves More Attractive
What Female Dating Strategies calls “vetting”, is really just the whole process of dating.
You meet someone, if they meet your minimum standard of attractiveness, you ask them out. You spend time with them to see if you are compatible.
Men “vet” women too. However, because men are not looking for a money or social status from women, they have a much shorter list of requirements.
Most men are simply looking for a reasonably pretty woman with a decent body, and a cool personality.
The average man’s handful of requirements is the OPPOSITE of most women, who are looking for a IMPOSSIBLE list of sometimes contradicting attributes:
Must look like this, but also love kittens, ballroom dancing, and be a rich corporate executive.
Tall, handsome, rich.
Muscular, and handsome enough to attract multiple women, but willing to be faithful to just one.
Rides a motorcycle and has tattoos, but also sensitive enough to write poetry and enjoy the ballet.
A “thug” who loves his mom, etc.
Modern Women, Traditional Men
Marriage itself is an old fashioned, outdated institution.
As such, only old fashioned men are even considering getting married. This is another example of women wanting conflicting attributes in one man.
Women want a traditional provider man, without considering that a man like that (logically) is going to want a traditional (feminine, submissive, cooks and cleans, etc) wife.
The 1950s traditional housewife model was a social contract.
The provider/ workhorse husband toiled in a factory or office job. Every day was the same.
He woke up every morning and commuted to work, did a dangerous, stressful job, dealt with a demanding, asshole boss and co-workers he didn’t like, for YEARS, to provide for his family.
The traditional man worked, paid for the house, the car, food, bills etc, but he came every night to a wife that appreciated him.
Modern women want traditional men, but refuse to behave like traditional women, even getting offended at the suggestion.
In return for his hard work and provision, the man’s loving wife cared for the home, the children, and her husband as a mother and homemaker.
She prepared meals, she kept the house clean, and the children well-behaved. She kept herself pretty, and her attitude pleasant. The traditional wife understood her role as a help-meet to her husband, not a competitor.
It would only make sense that women become more conventional in order to attract marriage-minded men. Rather than make this obvious conclusion, and act accordingly, they call men sexist for thinking they should get something in return for providing a home and money for a woman.
In fact, modern single women DESPISE the traditional feminine gender role. They think it beneath them to care for families and traditional men. They insult and shame women who do.
They hurl ugly, demeaning insults like “bangmaid” at traditional women. Women who perform important household duties like caring for their husbands and families are criticized as “Pick Me”.
This thinking totally misses the point, that (the few) traditional, masculine men that are looking to get tie the knot, marry traditional, feminine women.
Predictably, Ward Cleaver husbands aren’t looking to slave away as provider/ workhorses for modern short-haired, “fat positive”, feminist women.
In inevitable frustration, the modern woman logs on to r/FemaleDatingStrategies to complain about “scrotes”, and post memes about the “Pick Me’s” who succeeded in getting a High Value Man to wife them up.
Rule #1 Be Feminine
Femininity is so rare in modern women, it’s almost extinct.
In my post “5 Things I Learned From Dating A Sex Worker”, I described how floored I was by simple femininity of my date.
Her long hair, soft perfume, and demure body language were intoxicating to behold.
I felt entranced, and immediately realized how lacking such characteristics are in modern women.
Feminism and gender equalism have deluded women to believe that being feminine and submissive is weak. Nothing could be farther from the truth.
Femininity is alluring, and irresistible; it is the source of a woman’s true power.
In fact, if I had to give one piece of advice to a woman looking to improve her romantic options, it would be this: Be Feminine.
Author Eddie Fews wrote powerful essay on this topic, entitled “Dear Femininity, Men Want You Back”
“I find that many women lack the feminine version of the qualities that they desire in a man; and also, their desire to be liked for the same reasons that they like a man.
The high-majority of women who I speak with day to day, are completely out of touch with what it is that attract men, and what it is that men desire. And so they are continually frustrated, because we as men are not attracted to them for the same reasons that they are attracted to us.
For example:
I meet a lot of these successful independent women who say things like “
I have my Master’s degree, I make over $100,000 dollars a year, I can fend for myself, why can’t I find a decent man?”
And what these women don’t realize is that men are not biologically programmed to look at a woman for what she can provide.
So the amount of money a woman makes a year means absolutely nothing to the biological reasons that men find women attractive.
I would even go so far as to say that any man who is looking to a woman for what she can provide isn’t a man.”
Pretty women are everywhere, but a truly feminine, submissive woman is so rare that a woman like that will command immediate attention. Men view a feminine woman as a prize.
Femininity Over Everything
Shortly after I started dating my current love interest, I met a woman who I should have found more attractive.
The other woman was 27, 9 years younger than my current sweetheart. She had a cinnamon complexion, big brown eyes, and full lips that most Black women have naturally, but other races of women use injections and makeup to achieve.
She had an easy going manner, and the cute personality common in younger women. Let’s call her Jeanine. She was a yoga instructor, and had a BANGING body: lithe, tight, sexy as hell.
Jeanine and I had a lot in common: she had traveled in Asia, where I lived and traveled extensively. We had read the same books, enjoyed similar music, and more.
She and I spent several evenings together. I took her to a trendy lounge with live music, to play board games at a local dive bar, and out for cocktails at a swanky spot that I frequent.
Physically, the woman was attractive, but unfortunately, she had a masculine energy that turned me off. She also unfortunately had short hair that was buzzed on the sides.
Jeanine’s sexy body and full lips got my attention, but I couldn’t get past her short, boyish hair. Ultimately, I realized that it would never work between us.
Femininity Is Hard to Find
The woman I’m currently seeing is much more feminine. She’s also very pretty, but as I mentioned, she’s almost 10 years older than the tight, fit, yoga instructor.
I was drawn to her OVER a younger, “eye-candy” woman because I know that femininity is hard to find these days.
I can meet 100 yoga instructors, or slender women in their mid 20s, but only a few of them will have the demure, submissive demeanor that I prize so much in my current love interest.
It would take me MONTHS of dating to find another woman who shared my similar interests, was physically beautiful, AND had a feminine personality. (Not to mention a woman who isn’t raising other men’s children.)
After only a few dates, I cut if off with Jeanine (which was difficult to do because I could tell she REALLY liked me), and focused on the woman I’m seeing now.
My Advice to Women
As an attractive, successful man with lots of options, I can have what I want in a woman, as all men in my position can.
Men can have different preferences with body type, hair color, facial features, etc, in women, but the ONE characteristic ALL men value in women is FEMININITY.
This used to be common sense, but the current state of our clown world society has intentionally obscured this fact.
My advice to women that want to attract high value partners, is to become as traditionally feminine as possible in their mannerisms, dress, appearance, and the way they carry themselves.
The Higher Quality man you want, the more demure, softer, and more feminine you must become.
All men love femininity; a man who can have what he wants will not settle for anything less.
In Conclusion
Femininity INSTANTLY puts you above other women that a man is considering for dating and relationships.
A woman that walks into a room in a well fitting dress, sexy heels, with her hair and makeup done in a classy fashion, will command the attention of everyone in the room, male and female alike.
High quality men will approach a woman like that at greater frequency, and take her more seriously when they do.
If you are overweight, slim down.
If you have short hair, grow it out.
Those actions may take months or years, but you can put on a nice dress, and classy makeup, and learn to be graceful, in a matter of hours.
If you are a woman that is reading this, your current “strategies” aren’t working, and they never will.
Femininity is the ultimate dating strategy.
You have nothing to lose.
-Solitary Beast