Comment of the Week: "What About Sex Workers?"
This week’s Comment of the Week comes from Carlton, who asked:
Carlton’s question was perfect timing.
I had just written a tweet on the topic of sex workers the day before.
In my response to Carlton’s comment, I restated the sentiment from my Twitter post.
Seeing sex workers is fine- as long as you are not trying to escape the challenges of improving yourself, building your body, and working on your social skills, etc. enough to attract women on your own.
Prostitutes are not an easy button to avoid putting in the work.
Pussy For Purchase
Attractive women have always been for sale, since the olden days when suitors traded cows and donkeys in exchange for the beautiful maidens of the land.
You used to have to bring your best livestock, and negotiate with a woman’s father. Today, beautiful women are available for purchase more easily than ever.
Via OnlyFans, SeekingArrangements, sugar baby sites, and female dating communities that demand dinner in exchange for sex, you are never more than a few keystrokes away from trading your hard earned resources for female companionship.
Modern men can order women off an assembly line, just as easily as customizing a burrito bowl from Chipotle, just as hastily thrown together, and mass produced.
You Still Have to Work On Yourself
Even though sex is easy to get, you still need to put in the work to make yourself attractive to women.
This is the best investment of your time and energy, and it’s not even about women.
If you are currently struggling to attract women, you may think that the task of attracting them is some insurmountable obstacle.
You may have assumed that being “good with girls” is just something for a lucky few men, and that you’ll "never be able to have that success for yourself.
This is EXACTLY why you have to overcome this aspect of your life.
Millions of men: shorter than you, uglier than you, smaller dicks than yours, etc, have learned how to seduce women, and you can too.
Stephen Hawkin pulled chicks from a wheelchair, talking through a laptop. He cheated on his first wife with the woman in this photo, left her, and married the side chick. No excuses.
It’s critically important, and it’s worth the effort.
Not because of the women, but because of what you will learn about yourself, and the world.
In the excellent book Attraction Is Not A Choice, David DeAngelo wrote,
“There is tremendous power in deciding you will do whatever it takes to get this aspect of your life handled”
(See my post “How to Get Girls: 3 Books to Massively Improve Your Sex Life”)
You will gain confidence, inner strength, and a completely new outlook on life, once you invest the time in bettering yourself in this way.
Women are simply a benchmark that you will use to measure your success.
You will try, and fail.
You will get embarrassed, blown out, and blown off.
But you will get a little better each time.
Before long, you’ll be walking up to gorgeous women, charming their panties off.
Once you get really good, you’ll have sexy women chasing YOU.
The experience of being desired by multiple beautiful women is every man’s birthright.
It’s yours.
Reach out and grab it.
Zero to Hero
When I started my journey, I would never have been able to calmly seduce a sexy woman like my date in my post “5 Things I Learned About Game From Dating A Sex Worker”.
However, when I walked into her hotel room that evening, and leaned down to kiss her soft, perfect body, all those struggles were worth it.
It took over a year of lifting weights, reading books about seduction, practicing social skills and game, but I earned my stripes, and you must earn yours.
This is the essence of being a man.
You must confront challenges head on.
Men do not cower, run, or look for the easy way out, when the going gets tough.
It’s worth it.
Seducing women will be hard, for some of you, at first.
Then it gets so easy, and routine, that you won’t even want to be bothered.
THAT’S when you will find it more efficient to visit sex workers and pay for their time, than to invest your valuable time in emotionally draining, expensive, regular women.
Sex workers are women
Even if you pay them, which I never have yet, they will treat you with more respect and real physical attraction if you look, and carry yourself like a man that could get women if he wanted to.
Now that I can get women easily, I am planning to see sex workers, for the convenience, the next time I feel I need to.
One unfortunate consequence of understanding women well enough to seduce them easily, is that it becomes boring.
Women aren’t interesting.
Just like the chain restaurant burrito, they’re all the same, everywhere you go.
The same set of parlor tricks will reliably work on any woman who is attracted to you. For more information on this, read “Sex On the Second Date”.
Once you are used to saying your same “Cocky and Funny” (CNF) responses, feigning the same detached disinterest, and going through all the motions over and over again, women lose their appeal.
Seducing women becomes just another mundane activity, like replaying a level you already beat in a video game.
Sex Workers
My experience with sex workers comes from matching with one on Tinder about a year ago.
We went for drinks at a few trendy spots downtown, then she placed her hand on my thigh, and invited me back to her hotel room. Read my post “5 Things I Learned About Game From Dating A Sex Worker”.
I paid for drinks throughout the evening, but no money was exchanged between my date and myself.
I did enjoy the evening, learned a lot about beautiful women, and myself over that evening.
The lesson is that sex workers are still women, typically very attractive, and young, in order to be marketable selling their bodies.
My sex worker date finesses affluent men for money.
However, throughout that evening, she treated me with interest and displayed a high level of attraction toward me.
It felt genuine, and since she didn’t ask for money in any way, it must have been.
That evening was the BEST date I have ever experienced, for 3 reasons.
My date showed complete interest in me the whole evening.
She was feminine, sultry, and alluring, with lots of smiling and eye contact. As a professional, it is this woman’s business to be attentive to men.
She was perfect at it.
Instead of trying to impress me talking about her boring paper pushing job, like most modern, feminist influenced women, she simply asked questions, talked pleasantly about her life and experiences, and listened intently when I was speaking.
She smiled demurely and touched me gently throughout our conversation.
My date with a sex worker felt like talking to a woman (a rare experience these days), instead of like an awkward job interview, or getting grilled, I mean “vetted”, as many women think a date should be.
It was refreshing.
She was beautiful and feminine.
This is a lost quality in women.
The lies of feminism have taught women to be competitors with men. Instead of being feminine and demure, feminist women brag and ball bust like frat boys.
It’s not attractive.
We’ve all experienced excruciatingly boring dates, the struggle of trying to make conversation with a barely appealing, average (or below) entitled woman sitting across the table.
I enjoyed my date with a professional because it was exactly the opposite: A feminine, soft, sexy woman who was very interested in me, not trying to compete, boast about her “strong, independent” job as an administrative assistant.
The date ended in sex.
We stopped at several locations in the city that evening. The date started at a sexy cocktail bar, then we bounced to a nearby spot to watch a local live reggae band perform.
We had a few drinks at each, then wound up at a high end wine bar, where I’m old friends with the head sommelier.
Halfway through our first glass of wine, my date had seen enough.
She leaned in to me, placed her hand high on my thigh, and said softly,
“I have wine back to my hotel room, do you want to hang out there?”
In Conclusion
If you are extremely horny, and want to see a pro to blow off steam, go for it, but understand it’s just a temporary fix, not the ultimate solution.
You must confront your problems with women, and overcome them.
It’s not an impossible task, it simply requires time and commitment.
You were put on this Earth to have sex with women.
We lose sight of this fact, in a modern world with iPhones, Netflix, and Amazon Prime, but human beings are hairy, smelly, animals.
You are here to reproduce, or at least practice, as hard as you can.
If you aren’t good with women yet, it’s okay. Everybody started somewhere. Start now and don’t give up until you get what you want.
Then when you’re bored with that, you can see all the prostitutes your heart desires.
You can do it.
-Solitary Beast