Comment of the Week: "Some Kind of Bond"
This week’s Comment of the Week is from reader Shazz, who contributed this:
I disagree with Shazz here.
Actually, I think that most men DO want to have one partner, a girlfriend or wife, to share their lives with.
The Red Pill, while growing, is still an underground community which exists almost exclusively online.
In the real world, the majority of men are what we in this space call “Blue Pill”, “beta”, or “simps”.
Eighty to ninety percent of adult men, if not more, honestly believe they could love one woman for the rest of their lives, and live a romantic fantasy life.
Although it shocks the hell out of me, every day men line up to get married, father children, and move in with women.
I shouldn’t be surprised.
We’ve all grown up watching Disney, sappy romantic comedies, and listening to R&B love songs. Such media programs both men and women to prioritize infatuation, lust, and relationships.
As I wrote in the most popular post on this blog, “Why Men In Their Thirties Are Still Single”, relationships with women are another metric that men can use to keep score amongst themselves. We tally up the number of women our buddies have slept with, how attractive they were, etc, as part of the elaborate ranking system to determine the top dog.
Not only that, but humans are built for social and romantic connection. At puberty, our hormones rage, driving both young women and young men to seek each other out for the mating dance and reproduction. This biological imperative is how a playful 7 year old who doesn’t know girls exist, becomes a horny teenager who can’t keep his hands out of his pants.
On a scientific level, this is the only reason any of us are on Earth.
How Men Find The Red Pill
Although so-called “Red Pill” concepts were basic common sense for all of previous human history, (See my post, “The Red Pill was Common Sense”.) in modern feminist times, these ideas are considered radioactive outside certain corners of Youtube, and internet forums.
Talking about women, sex, and relationships this way, despite being observable reality, will get you fired from your job, and dropped from your friend group, even among groups of men.
Most men aren’t raised knowing these truths about female nature, hypergamy, monkey branching, etc.
Men typically find the Red Pill space in a search for answers to their problems with women.
Many of us have seen the ugly side of dating and relationships, and have become jaded in the process.
Unfortunately, as women run continue to run amuck, in larger numbers every day, more men are having negative experiences, and turning to TRP for answers.
Within this space, a lot of us are done with relationships and women, or have taken Coach Greg Adams advice to pursue the Free Agent Lifestyle: focusing on business, finances, fitness, travel, and hobbies, rather than investing time and energy in the Black hole of chasing women. See my post “High Value Man or Free Agent Lifestyle: Which Option Is Best For Men?”.
Personally, I get MUCH more fulfillment out of my hobbies, such as writing, fitness, home renovations, and training my dog, than I ever got out of relationships with women.
Sex is great, and feels good, but I simply find EVERY other aspect of entertaining women to be exhausting, and boring. It’s a chore to me, and I’m thankful to have so many other interesting activities to do with my time than listening to women talk.
However, I recognize that I, and men like me are in the minority.
As Solitary Beasts, we are something like US Marines, “The Few, The Proud”. It may not be a popular lifestyle, but it’s the one that works for me.
-Solitary Beast